How do you see getting married in Saudi ,,Is it fair for singles ?
October 9th, 2009
Mikel asked:
While a Muslim used to enjoy variety of social life in old ages can not now marry one lady because of life costs ,,You have to have a house and income plus Mahr in the 100,000 of rials plus housemaid(many Saudi ladies want housemaids) plus this plus that otherwise you will stay single like you are an unwanted person in Saudi ..
While a Muslim used to enjoy variety of social life in old ages can not now marry one lady because of life costs ,,You have to have a house and income plus Mahr in the 100,000 of rials plus housemaid(many Saudi ladies want housemaids) plus this plus that otherwise you will stay single like you are an unwanted person in Saudi ..
It is hard for singles yes, but the 100,000 tag is not for everyone. There are women/families that would accept less.
If I felt that the 100,000 was a rip off, I would simply not bother to pay it or approach such a family. I would just look elsewhere, whether it was within KSA or outside that would marry me for who I am and with reasonable expenses for my budget. Why stay single because of the 100,000?
Nevertheless I do not see marrying one woman a problem! Even in the Koran marrying up to 4 is permitted, but it is recommended to stay with one.
No matter what Arab girl you marry, we do like house maids.
depends on the couple involved.. If you are a mature stable man with something to offer that marriage.. a good job and a home that she will be able to live in. she might not be so scared to marry you and not want that 100thousand dowry of security… If you are the sort of man that supports your wife in her efforts and the daily chores about the house, she might not need a maid or a driver also..
I myself (now married 8 wonderful years) I work and have 2 small children and I DO NOT have a driver nor a housemaid.. I have a 2level home (Allah just blessed us with, we finished building it 9months ago)
and I take pride in being able to handle the whole home myself and manage my job and my children.. maybe im unique to the average girl here.. but my husband supports me totally, he helps in whatever ways he can… He takes the time off work to drive me somewhere if for some reason I couldnt get a taxi that day.. My extended family, my mother in law will sit for my children if I have an important meeting for my work. I clean my own home.. Sure with 2 small kids, it might get messy. I contain their play to just 2 rooms up and just shut the doors when guests are over and tell them to excuse those.. If I have a huge party, im not embarrased so much that I dont ask for help.. I can hire a temporary servant for the few hours that day to help me.. YES, but normally I dont need..
my marriage didnt cost my husband much.. We married in USA it cost all of around $15 to $20 US dollars.. my dowry was $60 US dollars that I turned around and handed back to my husband at the time cause we were starving university students and neither of us had the extra money anyways to spend on dowry.. We were both employed but supporting our tuition at the time.. We saved and then took our honeymoon a couple of years later (which was much more sweeter).. I love and appreciate every moment of my marriage now..
We live in SaudiArabia and both have good careers now.
There are other women like me.. I know cause I am friends with them..
Well, you don’t need to have a house that’s paid for. You can rent an apartment. But, yes, you should provide a place for you and your wife to live!!!
Income – well, yeah, you need to have a job or some sort of money to live on….
Mahr – Don’t marry a from a rich family if you don’t wanna pay a high mahr…Marry someone who’s of your equal lifestyle. You can save a lot of money by working and living with your parents while looking for a wife.
Housemaid – not necessary until you have a baby. That’s when most saudi women ask for a maid. Maybe you’ll even find a woman who doesn’t want a maid until she has a few kids or maybe doesn’t want one ever.
ok let’s read what you just wrote:
“you have to have a house”: ok, do you expect to live in a cardboard box, of course you need to have a house.”
“income” : you want to live from what? you need a job and a salary, the salary is called an income
“Mahr”: this is the dowry, usually you make gift of this monmey to your future wife so that she can prepare herself to be your wife (buy herself clothes and things for herself, so that when she moves in with you, she is coming ready” she can also take this money and invest it.
housemaid: all saudis have a housemaid and a driver, this is normal.
saudi girls want to live as a wife in the same lifestyle they used to live in their parents house and we like to cherish and spoil our children and get them used to high expectations. fortunately there is in the world women who are less demanding than others.
Also, for info, if a girl asks for too much things, it might be a hidden way of saying no.